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  • “I wholeheartedly endorse the book and the many ways, so simple, that anyone can use those great ideas to just put that smile on the face of their loved one, at perhaps just the right moment. It gives them hope, happiness, and knowledge that their relationship is so vital.”

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  • “After reading your book it became obvious to me that several of my men’s wives must have used your tips while we were deployed in Afghanistan. These guys always had a smile on their faces and were the envy of the base. Thanks for making our stay overseas that much more bearable!”

    - CPT Diggs Brown USSF, author of Your Neighbor Went to War


Search below for articles Elaine has written to help military families navigate deployment, reunion & reintegration, and other challenges of living and working as part of a military family.

Recognize stress before it kills you!
General Support & Information


Recognize stress before it kills you! 

Everyone suffers from stress at different times throughout their day. We all know that “good” stress can peak your adrenaline and actually help increase your performance and abilities in getting a job done. This kind of stress is critical on the battlefield. It’s when stress begins to control us, instead of us being in control of it, that it turns into “bad” stress. This decreases our ability to react and respond properly in situations and can be damaging to ourselves and others. Stress, much like high blood pressure, can be a “silent killer.” In a three-part series on Stress, we’ll look at how to recognize stress, what you can do to reduce stress, and how to create a stress management plan.


Take your family through S.W.O.T.
General Support & Information

Take your family through S.W.O.T.

I talk all the time about working with military families in a quest to help you be strong, safe and resilient. As a business owner, we start every year by submitting the business to a S.W.O.T. analysis. SWOT stands for Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats. This means that we try to get a head start on looking at what might enhance or get in the way of us having the business we want. This month I want to help you do a SWOT analysis on your military family, and focus on the power of the Strengths and Opportunities. The reason you’ll want to identify the Weaknesses and Threats too, is because you can prepare and strengthen yourselves ahead of time if you know they might hit you. Here’s how to start:

General Support & Information

I was thumbing through a quote book the other day and came across a line that caught my eye. "There is only so much sand in the hourglass. So who gets it?" You know what I'm talking about. Life's a tug-of-war and YOU'RE the rope! It's a rare individual who doesn't have a lot going on at the same time. Often, we can handle it, sometimes it seems out of control.

Return to the Bar
Reunion and Reintegration

While visiting my sister in Michigan last month, I had the pleasure of spending time with my 19-year-old niece, Sara. One afternoon she asked me to go with her to see (for her third time) one of her favorite movies - Center Stage. It's the story of a group of young ballet students who strive for one of three cherished places in the American Ballet Company. One young hopeful was a girl from the Bronx named Eva.

Re-connect with Old Friends
Reunion and Reintegration

I got a piece of mail the other day that deserved special attention. It was an invitation to my ____th. college reunion. I liked my college experience. I'm sure it had nothing to do with the fact that the male:female ratio was 11:1. That was just an added benefit. But what did I really remember most about that time?

Life Goes On
General Support & Information

I was talking with a colleague earlier today, lamenting about how I really wasn't "in the mood" to write my column for this newsletter. I was having a bad day, trying to recover from the holiday stress, feeling nostalgic after the recent loss of my sister and yet needing to be upbeat and positive as I put my thoughts into this article. It felt like an internal tug-of-war.


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F-16 Incentive Flight

  • Elaine Dumler's F-16 Incentive FlightElaine's F-16 Incentive Flight
    In 2009, she was provided the opportunity to take an F-16 incentive ride because of her work to promote the resiliency and readiness of military families.  See her photos here.

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